Do you ever wonder how some people never give up even when they’re faced with serious adversity? This article is about how these people do it, when to do it, and why some people just never give up.
Is There Ever A Situation When I SHOULD Give Up?
I typically don’t like to use the words always, only and never. In fact, even in this case, there are plenty of things that I suggest you give up on. Before you enact this principle, do this first:
Give up on anything that doesn’t align with you and your passions in life. Give up every distraction that prevents you from going after and spending time doing the things that you care about most.
Give up on anything that is robbing you of your happiness. In fact, let’s start off here:
The first thing you need to do, before you put the “Never Give Up” principle into practice is to take a good look at your life.
Evaluate your life by asking yourself this question: “Is there anything in my life that if I was to start over, I wouldn’t get involved with this time?” Put another way, “Is there anything in my life that may have once served me or I thought would serve me but no longer does?”
Look at every area from your relationships and friends to your career and finances. Is there anyone in your life that is holding you back? Are you in a career situation or financial situation isn’t going in the direction you want it to?
Most people hold on to rotten opportunities, friends, and situations for far too long. They seem to think that since they’ve put time, effort, money and resources into something that they’ve put too much into it to go back.
I have plenty of friends who do this. Think about it this way: It isn’t how long you’ve been involved in something that matters or how much time and effort and money you’ve put into it that matters… what matters is whether it is helping you in your life right now.
If you’re in situations that don’t serve you, the only questions you should ask yourself are, “how can I get out of this situation?” and “what is the fastest way for me to get out?”
Don’t settle for anything in life that isn’t serving you. Tastes change, people change. In fact, if there is one thing that I know about life, it is that change is inevitable. Accept it and move on.
What About Never Giving Up? What Happened to That?
If you are involved with things that are holding you back in your life, give up on them. Be a quitter and be proud. When it comes to your dreams, when it comes to the things that are most important to you in your life, that is when you should never give up.
Most people seem to only do the opposite though. The quit on all the things that are most important to them in their lives. They give up on the people they care about, they give up on their dreams, they give up on anything that gives them a little bit of struggle or forces them to face adversity head on. Don’t let this happen to you.
Many times, it’s when things are the hardest when success is right around the corner. Often, it is when we are being pressed the most when, if we just gave a little more effort, went a little bit longer, experienced a little more adversity, we’d find the success that we’re looking for.
When I was in the military, I went through some difficult training there in order to get to the part of the military that I wanted to be in. In order to get there, you have to go through a variety of different tests, including a long underwater swim.
Apparently, a lot of people didn’t make it through this swim. I think it’s more of a mental obstacle than anything else. At least, I did until it was the day that I needed to do the swim.
I remember waking up that day, completely congested with a stuffed nose and a little bit of a fever. It seemed like fate wasn’t favoring me that day.
When we got to the pool and it was my turn to do the swim, I remember thinking how badly it was going to suck to do this swim. The fear of doing something is almost always worse than the actual even itself.
Most people quit because they’re afraid that something is going to be difficult and painful, not because it actually is.
I jumped into the pool anyway. The task is: You jump in next to the ledge, do a flip, and then kick off and go to the other end and back.
I remember earlier, I was talking to some of the guys in the training with me and they said that you knew whether you were going to make it or not depending on if you started doing the funky chicken, gasping for air thing before or after you make it to the other side.
That day, I started gasping for air, way before I made it to the other side. I got to the other side, turned around and started swimming back.
My vision started to narrow. It was like I was in a deep dark tunnel with a small light on the other side. I was gasping hard and I started looking up.
The thought, “There’s no way I’m going to make this,” came through my head and I started swimming towards the surface.
And all of a sudden, I had a flash back to earlier in the day. One of our instructors was talking to the entire group and he said, “If you don’t think you’re going to make it, just keep going anyway. If you pass out under water and your lifeless body smacks up against the ledge, even if you’re not conscious, we’ll still count it as you making it anyway.”
I came back to the realization that I was swimming underwater in the pool. The next thought that came to my mind was, “fuck it,” and I swam to reach that ledge.
My vision narrowed in. The next thing I remember, I was laying on the concrete on the ledge of the pool and one of the instructors was holding me, perpendicular to the ground by my shorts while I was coughing and choking.
He said, “Congratulations, you made it. Go sit by the end of the pool.”
And while I was somewhat dazed still from the experience of passing out in the water, I remember feeling an intense joy come over my body.
Even though the odds were stacked against me that day, I went for it and made it just when I thought there was no way I was going to accomplish what I wanted.
And since then, I’ve experienced this over and over again in my life. Just when I think there’s no hope, just when I think that everything is stacked against me and I can’t go any further… that’s when pushing on ahead has given me the greatest gifts.
Our biggest limitation in our lives come from ourselves. There are countless stories of people who were beaten, broken, and faced overwhelming adversities, adversities that put most of our troubles to shame, who went on to carry out amazing accomplishments in their lives.
So, the next time you think about giving up, remember what Napoleon Hill said, “Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.”
Until Next Time,