Are you setting your life up for success? This post is about designing and deliberately creating the environment and circumstances that will make you successful in your life.
One of the biggest things that I’ve struggled with since I was a little kid is perfectionism. From a very superficial standpoint, perfectionism is about making sure that you get something done way beyond the normal expectations of anyone.
This can prevent you from doing anything at all since you want to make sure things are ideal, the work is ideal, something is ideal before you move on with it. In reality, nothing will ever be ideal which is why this can become a fatal way to look at the world.
Have you ever talked to someone who said that one day they will do or get or be someone once they have a better job, more money, better skills, more… whatever? You need to learn to do what you can with whatever resources you have available to you. Otherwise, you’ll be waiting forever.
You have no idea what is going to happen tomorrow, begin right now. Start moving towards your dreams today. Decide if it is worth having and if it is, make that commitment now.
On the deep side of perfectionism, it could easily be linked to self worth and self-esteem issues. If you don’t feel like you’re deserving of something, you’ll want to get more proof that you’re worth it before you start trying to have it in your life.
This is a very reasonable approach to your life. It’s very realistic. I have some friends who think you’re better off being realistic. And to a certain degree, I can see that. If you make your goals too unrealistic, you’ll probably give up because you won’t even believe that you can have it.
But you have to be willing to take some risk in going after what you want. You have to be willing to take yourself out of your comfort zone and challenge yourself to go after something that you previously have been unable to achieve.
This is where you’ll grow. This is where you’ll make your biggest gains and distinctions in life.
If you want unreasonable results, you have to be unreasonable to get them.
Make It Easy to Be Successful
A lot people seem to think that if they want to do something in life, they need to do it the hard way. In some ways, this makes sense. Adversity is the only thing that builds character in life.
But you’ll plenty of that if you set your goals and dreams high enough. There’s no reason to make things any harder than they already have to be.
I was at a Project U Mastermind and had someone there who wanted to make a goal of bringing food with him to work. He didn’t know what type of food to bring though. He thought he would just figure it out when the time came.
This is wrong approach. You want to make it as easy as possible to achieve your goal. You want to make it so that you don’t even need to think about it, it’s all written out and figured out for you.
And if that’s not possible, get as much clarity on what you’re trying to achieve and how you can do that as possible. The more clarity you have, the easier it will be and the more likely you will do it.
Take the time to do the strategic work that will set you up for being as successful as possible. Nobody who tries to do anything great in the world, does it completely alone. And you don’t need to either.
Don’t worry about proving yourself to anyone. There will be plenty of opportunities to do that when you’re successful if you’re still concerned about it.
Stack all of your cards in your favor. Identify the people, groups, and associations whose help you will need in order to become successful in what you want for yourself.
Find people who have already done what you’re trying to do and make friends with them. Ask them for help in figuring out what you’re going to need to do in order to create a higher percentage chance of success in whatever it is that you’re trying to do.
Relationships are everything. No matter what you’re trying to do in your life, there are key relationships that you will either need to become successful or that you could save you year of hard work and toil.
Manifest Your Greatness
Success breeds success. It’s easy to identify yourself as being a successful person in life if you have success in your life. Developing a strategy to win in your life means that you need develop all the areas of your life and start becoming success at each of them.
Start with what many call your inner game. Your inner game is what makes up your beliefs, perceptions, and habits of thought that shade the way you look at yourself and your life.
You can actually pick what you believe. Don’t leave this area up to chance. Be deliberate about what beliefs will be most useful to you when moving towards your goals and aspirations.
You can decide what level of self-esteem you have. Most people just allow themselves to look at themselves like they aren’t worthy of the great things they want in their lives. I did this for years.
It’s seems like it’s easier to just ignore your perception of yourself because really looking at yourself and being completely honest about it is a very scary thing to do. Ignoring this is easier in the short run.
In the long run, feelings and ideas of self doubt and inadequacy will destroy your ability to create what you want in your life. And even more so, it will eliminate your chances of keeping anything you have because you’ll sabotage anything worthwhile because you don’t believe you deserve it.
And to matters worse, you’ll start distracting yourself from getting what you want in your life by doing things that you think will enable you to deserve what you want. But in reality, once you make those accomplishments, you’ll just find reasons why you don’t deserve what you’ve accomplished and why you don’t deserve what you really want for yourself.
I did this for years. I spent years trying to prove to myself that I deserved to have a great life with great people in it. I kept sabotaging the relationships I did have and kept coming up with new things that I needed to do to prove that I was worth it.
I literally distracted myself for almost an entire decade. And I actually accomplished a lot of really cool things in that time. You know what I didn’t do? I didn’t go after what I really wanted.
There was always an excuse: I’m too old. I’m too young. I’m too smart. I’m too stupid. I’ve used all of those within a span of a week before.
The problem isn’t any of that though. The problem goes much deeper. If you’re making excuses for why you aren’t going after what you want in your life, take a look at inner game. Take a look at the psychological processes that are running your life.
I know it is hard to be honest with yourself sometimes. But I think if you’re completely honest, you’ll find something there that is at the root of what is preventing you from getting what you want in your life.
Deep inside you is a spark of something great. If you’re like most people, You’re just sabotaging it from fully manifesting itself in the world.
Get out of your own way and allow your greatness to shine through in your life.
Play to Win
If you want to win at the game of life, you need to plan on winning. It seems like this would be obvious. I mean, who would plan on losing, right?
The answer is everyone. Most people move haphazardly through their lives wishing or hoping that things will get better for them but not taking any specific action that really helps them create this for their own lives.
If you want to have more of the things that are important to you in your life, you need to plan on having more of the things that you want in your life. You need to deliberately start working on your goals.
In order to do anything new, you have to eliminate other things in your life first. What are you spending your time on that isn’t serving you in your life?
Decide to become action oriented. Take action on everything. If you learn something new that could massively increase your odds of being successful, take action on it immediately. In fact, don’t learn anything else until you’ve put that one thing into action.
So many people get wrapped up in consuming new information. Information doesn’t do you any good if you don’t take what you’re learning and do something with it.
My father did this for years. He still does it to this day. He’s probably listened to an entire library filled of personal development programs, tapes, and CD’s. But he’s never stuck with anything. If he does try something, it’s only for long enough that he won’t get any serious results from it and then he’s on to something new.
Don’t let this happen to you. If you add something new to your life that will dramatically improve it, make it a part of your life permanently. Or at least, make it part of your life long enough so that it will permanently make some type of positive change for you.
Many personal development programs work. The problem is that most people don’t work the programs. Most people quit at the earliest possible moment that they can justify and rationalize doing so.
Play to win. Stack all the cards in your favor. Plan ahead of time so that you know how to be successful. Deliberately design and develop your inner thoughts, beliefs, habits and emotions in order to support you in what you want for your life.
Develop the key relationships that you will need in order to accomplish your goals. Take action on new ideas that will push you towards success. Make your dreams a priority in your life. Make it easy to win.
The more you plan on winning in your life, the more you set your life up for success, the more likely you will find what you want in your life.
Until next time,
Live Today With Passion
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